"did" and "said" are the only two important things in your past

Have you ever thought that of all your life and years ... the two things that really matter... the only two things that are of any importance in your past are  "did" and "said" ?

Now, you may think that  "thoughts" is one of them too.  But!  Thoughts are things said to yourself.  Besides, thoughts usually become "dids" or "saids" eventually.

Case -in-point...my mom did and said a lot right before she died.   That's what I remember most about her.  The last things she did ...and...the last things she said.  Especially the last things she said.  I made a point to memorize those "said" things, because I knew those last words really mattered to her.  And I helped her complete all her "did" things.   I've held onto those words and actions.  I play them over in my mind. 

You can see what I'm saying and doing right now, can't you?   Whatever we do and say is what people remember about us.   It doesn't matter what we look like, what we wear, what we own, or what we learn.  It only matters what we "did" or "said".  Words and actions...those two explain it better, at least you may think so.   But I like  "did" and "said".   Why ?   Because they stick with me. 
And think about it, everything is past tense.   Seriously.   It's not what you are going to say.   It's not what you are going to do.  None of that really matters at all.   None of those so-called promises matter a-hill-of-beans (whatever that means).   Only things that matter are what you've physically or verbally put out there in space, tangible stuff, what others hear and observe of you.
My alcoholic dad promised us a lot.  And that meant nothing to us.  We always had the attitude that we'd believe it when we saw it.  Well, yeah, when we were young, we hung on his every word.  But ,we soon got over that.  
So, if you want to break it all down, if you want to know what is the most important things in your life that matters, what you really need to focus on...focus on these two things..."did" ...and... "said".  If you can get those two things right, you'll be remembered kindly and with much love..see